Use Mehrabian-style congruence carefully when communicating attitude, concern, or support.
When feelings are the message, mismatch becomes the message. What To Notice Mehrabian’s often-misquoted work applies narrowly to communication about feelings and attitudes, especially when words conflict with tone and facial expression. Used responsibly, it teaches congruence: if you are expressing commitment, concern, appreciation, or confidence, your nonverbal channel must support the attitude your words claim. What Makes It Work Look for clusters, context, baseline, and timing. A body-language read is strongest when the cue changes at the same time the stakes change. What To Do Next Respond with a small adjustment or a neutral question. The professional standard is…
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