Separate Heat From Harm
Distinguish a threat response from the behavior you still need to address.
A hot reaction is information, not permission. The first job is to reduce physiological threat enough for the person to regain access to reasoning; the second job is to hold the boundary on behavior. Name the mechanism When people perceive threat, attention narrows, voice volume rises, and certainty hardens. Treat that as a temporary state, not as their full character. If you argue facts while the threat system is still driving, you usually create a second threat: being corrected publicly. Protect the boundary Regulation is not indulgence. You can say, "I want to understand the rollout risk, and I need…
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