Perspective-taking is not mind reading
Explain why perspective-getting is more reliable than private inference.
The move: treat your read as a hypothesis until you get the perspective. Perspective-taking starts with a generous impulse, but it can become overconfidence quickly. You imagine why a person is quiet, frustrated, late, or resistant. Because the story is coherent, it feels like understanding. The research on perspective-getting warns that this is not enough. Accuracy improves when you ask for the other person's actual view. Use a three-part mental model: fact, story, ask. The fact is what happened. The story is what you think it means. The ask is the perspective-getting question that can correct your story. Empathy-gap awareness…
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