Request or Demand?
Identify what makes a request specific, actionable, and free of coercion.
The request is where NVC stops being insight and starts being usable. A request gives the conversation a next move. Without it, people may feel understood but still not know what to do differently. What strong requests sound like Strong requests ask for an observable behavior: say, send, schedule, confirm, pause, summarize, or check. They also give context and timing. The other person can picture the action. What weak requests sound like Weak requests are vague identity upgrades: be more strategic, communicate better, show leadership, stop being defensive. These phrases often produce shame or confusion because they do not specify…
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