Worked Example: Turn Blame Into NVC
Convert a blaming difficult-conversation opener into an NVC sequence with a concrete request.
Blame sentence: You blindsided me in that meeting. Observation -> Feeling -> Need -> Request The trap is replacing one accusation with a softer accusation, such as 'I feel like you were trying to make me look bad.' That still treats motive as fact and uses 'feel' to introduce a judgment. 1. Observation The pricing risk was raised in the executive meeting before you and I discussed it. This removes the motive claim and gives both people the same moment to inspect. 2. Feeling I felt unprepared. The feeling is owned by the speaker rather than assigned as the other…
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